Hi, I'm Jeff: Thanks for letting me post. I filed for divorce from my wife of nine years after catching her the second time having sex with black guys. I offered to forgive her the second time, but she told me she was not going to stop. She would go out with her girlfriends who were all having affairs with black men. One of the husbands of my wife’s girlfriends was an acquaintance of mine. We had lunch together, and I told him about my wife’s affairs and told him his wife was also having affairs with black guys. To my surprise, he told me he fully supported what she did. I had a second meeting with this man, only this time his wife unexpectedly showed up with him. She told me I should feel so lucky that my wife was doing this. I told her I did not agree and that I considered my wife having sex with black men to be a horrible violation of our marriage vows. She told me I was a bigot and that I was so naïve. Later they emailed me links to websites that I was to review to gain a better understanding of my wife’s behavior. They said to review these websites thoroughly before the divorce was final. One of those websites led me to you. I do have a better understanding now (I think), but I am still not sure what to do. Thanks for listening.